One Year of Togetherness

It’s been 1 full year, 52 weeks, 365 days and 8765 hours (I googled that) and it still feels like yesterday. 

Yet another benchmark in my life and I had to write about it.

In this one-year of married life, there have been days of pure bliss and happiness but also days of sadness and loneliness, days of pure fun and adventure but also days of laziness and sleep, days of celebrating success and achievement but also days of depression and frustration.

I have gone through zillions of emotions in this past one year. And in a way, life is an amalgamation of emotions right? So I guess marriage has definitely strengthened my EQ.

It’s been a year of change, Well, I was kind of prepared for it, but was not prepared for such a drastic CHANGE . From a selfish, self absorbed, pampered girl to a loving wife.

It’s been a learning experience, where in I have struggled in the kitchen to prepare a simple edible meal for Mr beau. Where I have realized that there is big big difference between romance and love. Romance is something which is sooo filmy, fun and glamorous. Romance is a great candle light dinner, but the actual bliss and love is when extreme hunger strikes and you still want to share a single slice of pizza with your partner.

There have been days where I have screwed big time embarrassing Mr beau just to seek some attention, and learned that how important it is to forgive and forget. Where I have experienced loneliness, and have realized how important family and friends are in one’s life. Where I have learnt that it’s not easy to be a homemaker and it requires a lot of planning and what not. (It’s a big big chore to go do your grocery shopping every month).  I have developed a sudden level of respect for all our moms who have excelled the art of being a homemaker, without expecting anything in return. Where I have learned to keep a track of your finances and art of managing money (it sounds easy, but believe me, its actually a task).

There have been moments of inspiration and spirituality too. There have been moments of sudden burst of knowledge, ideas and a feeling of being intellect. Rather say it’s been a creative and a year of revelation of truth, a new dimension in life.

Well, I was just so blessed to share all the above with Mr Beau and most of it was taught by him.

When I was single, I definitely was more in a state of being free, had the choice to do anything, anytime, no responsibilities, basically life was very light and carefree but marriage has given me moments of immense satisfaction with oneself which I wonder I would have experienced when I was single. Marriage is something, which is so delightful and if you want to evolve as a person you should experience it.

So far it has been a lovely journey “A Year of Togetherness”. I’m sure the years ahead are going to be a lot more different and lots of change. I guess all we need to do is just EXPLORE!

HAPPY 1^st TO US

NYC and Me

It’s been more than a year since I wrote anything new or to be more precise anything meaningful or meaningless. An existence without expression is a bad thing, its something like if you don’t see your reflection in the mirror for days, you definitely are going to get uglier by the day. So to save myself, I thought writing and reflecting my thoughts would be a good idea. 

And since the day I have moved to the US i have only been embroiled in answering questions, which taper down to just one topic“ How do you while away or kill time?”  So now that I have the time, a new place to explore, I will have more to express and lots to write.  

Friday the 13th of Jan was the day I landed to the US. Could there be unluckier or rather luckier day to start the new phase of my life?  Had come with a complete different mind set, a new hope, something’s to explore, something’s to discover, something’s to learn and unlearn but most importantly to grow as a person and to develop a strong bond with the guy who brought me here to the US. Lets name him Mr Beau.

I never wanted to settle abroad, I always thought life here in the US is shit, but very addictive, and especially for us Indians. We make a lot of money, get a wooden house, a BMW, but at the end of the day we are just a miser here. After staying here for around 2 months, I realized that all my above pre conceived notions are not mere notions but facts.

But there are also lots of good things about staying in the US too. One among them is easy access to travel .I still get so amazed by the fact that people staying in NJ go to a complete different state NY to work. In India this would be operationally so difficult.
Anyways, so far I have been to New Jersey (I stay here.) Washington DC, Maryland, Virginia and New York.

Let me start with place I liked the best, NEW YORK.

My first visit to New York was to visit Mr Beau’s office. It was a Saturday early afternoon, we went via bus, on the way to New York, you can see the New York Skyline, which looks magically awesome at any point of the day or night.

The bus goes through the very looonng , gloomy Lincoln Tunnel and suddenly once you are out of the tunnel light flashes and all you see is tall buildings and yellow cabs.

The moment I got out of Port authority, thousand words filled my mind. The first thought which came in to my mind was “ Am into some Hollywood Flick? “ It really took me a while to sink in the fact that im in NEW YORK. As usual I was extremely excited. Everything around me was on a move, nobody or nothing was still. The city was charmingly frenzy . One more thing which I discovered very soon was it’s ridiculously difficult to look pretty in this city. It’s a city where fashion never ends.

After visiting Mr Beau’s office my first stop was “The Times Sqaure”, I looked up to Mr Beau and said“ is this Times Square? What’s so great about it” I kind of felt its overrated. Its nothing but crammed with huge vibrant hoarding and crowded with people all the time. In my opinion, what make Times Square… TIMES SQUARE.. are  the people.

If you are a people person, you will love Times Square, and so did I. The place slowly grew on me. You will find people from varied countries, of all color, religion, shapes and sizes. The crowd is incredibly diverse.  It is place where if you have the talent you can get noticed, and at the same time you can be a ghost in the crowd. It’s one place where I found everybody to be soo soo happy. I didn’t find a single soul who looked sad there. ;) Funny!

The Naked Cow Boy really grabbed my attention. Extremely popular among the girls.  Can’t imagine anybody in India doing something like this.  Apart from that the NYPD cops are very entertaining too, quite flirty and are forever ready to get clicked. Its place full of glamour and entertainment round the clock.I did visit quite a lot of other places in New York, about which I shall write in my upcoming posts.

There are lot of good things about the city, but slowly I realized there are few things missing too. The city is so electrifying, that you would never see the stars in the night, or see the black of a night.

Whatever said and done, Im stil not a New Yoker, but im loving the city for the only sole reason that each time I have been there I have cherished lovely little moments with Mr Beau and that makes New York city extremely special to me. :)